Poly-Positive Sex Therapy
for Littleton

What happened to our desire?

A fulfilling sex life is a multifaceted goal, with the physical act being only one ingredient in the recipe. The ability to frankly and safely discuss and share fantasies with your partner can bring a new dimansion into your relationship.

Many couples find it difficult to connect and communicate. Do you feel like you have become just roommates? At different times, many couples struggle with sex and intimacy. Sometimes a partner may feel lonely, unseen, or unheard. Some partners may feel their needs or desires do not matter. Couples sometimes report having the same fight over and over again, but cannot reach a solution.

Do you want to rekindle your loving connection and bring back the spark in your sex life? Poly-positive sex therapy may be the answer. Sex is the major distinguishing factor between a friendship and an intimate relationship. When couples enjoy a deep connection along with a fulfilling sex life, they have established the foundation of a solid relationship that is built to last.

Poly-positive sex therapy can help renegotiate differences in libido, rediscover common ground, find pleasure and contentment together, grow closer to your partner and communicate better, and redefine the couple bubble.

Sex is more than just an act

Many different things can impact your sex life.

Have you been together for years and are having trouble with beliefs about financial decisions? Finances are often reported as a top impactor of a couple’s sex life.

Frustrations with work or the kids influences your relationship.

Our bodies change with time. Have these changes reduced physical intimacy or created differences in desire?

Technology, Netflix, social media, and video games can intrude into a relationship and partially or completely displace a partner.

Advertising, movies, and social media can set a false sense of physical normalcy that may exacerbate feelings of inadequacy.

Busy schedules can create difficulties for a close and intimate relationship.

A couple can be dramatically influenced by either partner’s family and contact with relatives can become a point of contention.

Communication is paramount, especially when there are words that lead to feeling misunderstood, hurt, or angry. A wise, tenured businessman summed it up this way: “It’s really demeaning to think that, in this deep desire to be liked, you’ve compromised giving clear, unambiguous feedback.” We provide a judgement-free environment to help you both learn to communicate your desires in healthier ways.

Like chocolate in your hand

We often ask our couples if their partner knows the information they just shared in session, and so often they will say one of several things: “I think so?”, “They must”, “I am sure they know”, or “I don’t think they do”. We ask them to share those sentiments, and, like chocolate melting in your hand, the couple melts and softens. Trust and intimacy can grow. They begin to see each other in ways that they hadn’t viewed their partner before. Perhaps this simple question and answer allows each of us to be heard and seen. Chris says, “I feel a sense of safety when I know my partner sees and hears me. It sort of makes me fall for him over and over again.” Sex therapy helps you rebuild the closeness and can improve more than just your sex life.

Issues around pornography

Pornography is neither good nor evil— it can be unhealthy. Modern media consumption directly influences the impact of cultural input on contentedness with a partner’s body. Of a sample of 7,749 educated US adults who had achieved at least some college, 77% of women indicated their partners used the internet to engage in sexual activities, while 26% of men report their partner engaged in sexuality online. Both members of a committed couple reported they both took part in online sexual activities in 21% of this population. This same study found that males (8.9%) are significantly more likely than females (2.6%) to to be more critical of their partner’s body. Porn is a relationship stress that presents a visual ideal that no partner feels they can live up to. When a woman negatively compares her real and perceived body image against the thin ideal presented in pornography she may experiences jealousy, which limits her sexual esteem and often damages the romantic relationship.

Intimacy and attachment can be negatively affected when one partner feels alone, unseen, unheard, or lonely. We are there to help you navigate rebuilding process and discover new ways to safely communicate.

Poly-positive sex therapy is no different than any other type of therapy. We discuss your thoughts, desires, perceptions, and feelings. We develop new understanding and goals. During sex therapy, there is never any nudity or sexual contact between therapist and client or between clients.