Come walk with me

Risk is necessary to live a life of love and fulfillment.
— William Burroughs

For many, risk is often a word associated with harm. Rarely in today’s day and age do we equate risk with growth and peace. As a human, I have come to learn that some of my greatest growth comes from risk, emotional exposure, and uncertainty. To love and be loved is one of the strongest of human desires. For me, is equivalent to breathing air. To watch love and bonding be reawakened and strengthened is a sacred privilege.

There is a pleading that comes each time a couple walks into a therapy room. Please be the one to walk with us through the uncertainty. Help us to find the love we have felt for each other. So many questions, so much uncertainty.

We are bombarded with messages that we are not enough or that what we have experienced makes us too much to be loved. The ever-present shame cloud engulfs our minds and keeps us from seeing what is really is.

I walk with couples as they take one of the most courageous and vulnerable journeys one can take: the journey of exploring their hearts, minds, and stories.

I walk with couples as they bravely run into the storm of emotions and feeling. They flood and flee; stand strong; cry, fight, and forgive; and surrendered to love.

I walk with them as they work diligently to claim a relationship that is theirs and one that society tells them is not possible.

I walk with them as they redefine norms and expectations to that which are in line with their beliefs.

I walk with them as they chase the ghosts of the past out of their inner sanctuary.

I walk with them as they ask themselves if they have the power to change.

I walk with them as they let each other in for the first time in a long time.

I walk with them as they strive to find new definitions of self and others.

I walk with them as their love for each other grows.

I walk with them as their compassion grows for them self and each other.

I walk with them as they establish boundaries and embrace each other.

I walk with them as they redefine beauty and sexuality to their standards.

I believe that life is filled with many hurdles to overcome and mountains to climb. If we create the space to stop, listen, and share the stories and the feelings that are occurring, and crawl down into the dark pits and be with each other, assembling all the tools that are available, a beautiful relationship can be built.

The world will tell you many stories about who you are and who you must be. Let’s walk together and listen to the wisdom of kindness and gentleness and build the relationship that you desire.