gratitude: Gratitude in Reverse: Gratitude is 100% mindset. Jun-24-2025

Gratitude in Reverse

TL;DR

A short poem-like exercise. List everything that bothers you in one column. Then ask what each complaint is trying to tell you and write something you can be grateful for in the second column. Dog hair means you have a dog and a floor, and pain means you are alive.

This blog is rather simple.

It only contains a line or two.

If you are reading a therapy blog—

then something is bothering you.

My advice is rather simple

take a minute or two

catalogue all the complaints you have

and all that is bothering you.

Write them down in a column

and leave a second column blank.

 

Now my friends after you have written down all that is bothering you

close your eyes and ponder this

Every item on your list

has something special to say.

So ask yourself what the complaint

is wanting to say to you.

 

The challenge to this exercise

is every complaint on your list

has something for which you can express

a healing gratitude.

 

Well how can I be grateful

for dog hair on a dirty floor?

I might say to you that dog hair on a dirty floor

is a loud and clear indicator

that you have a dog, and a floor.

 

Mindset is everything.

How can I be grateful for pain?

Pain shouts you are alive!

 

Write the list my friends

and turn the many colors of your complaints

into a rainbow of gratitude.

 

Happy writing!



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